Preparing Children for the Death of a Loved One

What Is Anticipatory Grief?

When a child or youth is facing the expected death of someone they love, grief often begins long before the loss itself. Changes in routines, medical uncertainty, symptom changes, and emotional shifts within the family can create confusion, fear, and unanswered questions. Without clear information and supportive guidance, children may imagine scenarios that feel more frightening than reality or struggle to express what they are feeling.

Anticipatory grief support helps children and youth make sense of what’s happening in age-appropriate ways. Early support can reduce anxiety, strengthen family attachment, and build long-term coping skills that carry into bereavement.

How We Can Help

Our child life specialist provides developmentally-informed support for both children and caregivers during a life-limiting illness. We work alongside families to:

• Help caregivers find language for difficult conversations
• Offer age-appropriate explanations about illness and expected changes
• Support children in expressing feelings through play, conversation, and art
• Create opportunities for memory-making and meaningful connection

Sessions may include caregiver consultation or individual child support depending on your needs. Our goal is not to remove the pain of what is happening, but to ensure that children feel informed and supported throughout the process.

What Is a Child Life Specialist?

A child life specialist (CLS) is a healthcare professional trained in the developmental, emotional, and social needs of children and youth ages 0-17. CLS are trained to support children, youth, and families during times of significant stress, illness, hospitalization, or significant life changes, such as loss and bereavement.